We will teach you how to educate yourself and others from love, less yelling and more hugsstop stressing and start educating with love.

This blog is directed especially for moms, because it is very important that we educate from knowledge, from love and for that it is essential to self-educate ourselves first, to be able to educate our children correctly, or at least almost correctly.

First be clear that all mothers make mistakes, all human beings make mistakes and that is completely fine, because if we were perfect, we would stagnate in that perception and we would never move forward, there would be no possibility of progressing, of advancing in this growth in life.

I will share with you some steps that you should try to avoid as much as possible and others that you should try and make an effort to practice.

Step number 1: Do everything with love.

Most mothers love their children, when they are babies or 3 to 4 years old, you show that love, but that love has to be calmed more in moments of difficulty, in moments where we have to pay attention to our children or to ourselves. In moments of difficulty, when we have to show ourselves, that we love ourselves and that we are there, when our children do not pay attention to us, not because they are bad, not because they do not want to, but because in their mind, in their moment, they are not ready to do that activity that we are telling them to do.

Step number 2: Unconditional love.

This goes hand in hand with the previous step, that love that we preach, that love that we say we feel for our children or for ourselves, has to be demonstrated in moments of difficulty, when our son or daughter is not ready to obey, is when we have to educate them with unconditional love and not focus on the fact that they do not want to do that activity, but focus on why, put ourselves in their shoes, and be more empathetic, for that we need to count on unconditional love.

Step number 3: Make yourself your priority.

I invite you to watch my previous video where I talk about the importance of reviving and having these micro pleasures active day by day.

Step number 4: No violence.

No yelling, no bad words, this obviously applies when we are educating our children, but also towards ourselves, many times we are super violent with ourselves, we treat ourselves badly, how stupid I am, how stupid, but why don't I think, but this only happens to me. Please don't be violent/violent with your children, that's the most evil thing we can do in our lives, to be violent with our children.

I understand that sometimes it is difficult because we have a lot of worries, we are busy, we have a lot of things on our minds, life tests us in those moments and our son or daughter disobeys us, talks back, doesn't want to brush their teeth, doesn't want to go to bed early, etc., and we react with a scream, let's not do that because it is not the right way to educate our children.

Number 5: No labels.

Neither negative, nor positive, stop saying, yes I'm dumb, yes I'm stupid, I'm dumb, I'm gross. Or tell your child you are disobedient, or for not wanting to brush his teeth one night in a 7 year old child because he still does not understand the importance, he is already a pig, you are a pig. There is also the other extreme where they are labeled, you are perfect, you do everything right, because then our children will want to please us, they will do everything we say just to receive that positive label, and when they are adults they may be living a deceptive life, that is not what they wanted, that they simply designed this life based on these positive labels that we as parents instill in them all the time. So both negative and positive labels are not good.

Number 6: Avoid comparisons.

Don't compare yourself to absolutely no one, because your life and your process is absolutely unique. Don't compare one child with another, because each child is different, each one has his or her virtues and personality, if you keep comparing, you will be directly affecting the personality of your son or daughter.

Finally, the last step: Our children have their stages.

We have to be aware of that, because we cannot allow ignorance to consume us and believe that our child has the same mentality as us, that our child has to act like us, and therefore he has to organize his mess when we tell him, he has to brush his teeth when we tell him, he has to do everything as we tell him, because if he does not do it the child is a problem. 

They have their stages, we have to get down to the level of our children, look them in the eyes, understand, get into that little head and understand those stages. All the stages are different, it depends on the situation they are living in, the environment you are in, the situation you are going through in your life. These stages are very important and primordial for our personal growth to educate ourselves and to educate.