If you want to live your life effortlessly and successfully, if you want to do your best in whatever priorities and difficulties come your way, you must stop ignoring yourself right now and always make yourself your priority.

In the case that you are carrying all the weight of others, to the point that you are ignoring yourself, ignoring your needs, your emotions, you are simply not treating yourself as you deserve, as you should be treated. If you identify with what I just mentioned, let me tell you that it clearly shows a lack of balance in your life, which means that you are not giving yourself time and attention to focus on your needs, goals and desires. You are not giving yourself the same compassion and understanding that you give to others.

This issue is super important and primordial, because if you feel exhausted you will not have good things to offer to others, what you do for your loved ones, will not have a very good quality, simply because you can not give or offer what you lack. So I invite you to start right now to practice the selfless art of prioritizing yourself, because taking care of yourself and doing what you love is not selfishness.

The psychological explanation of why it is so hard for us to prioritize ourselves, is due to the belief of not being selfish, since we were children we have been inculcated and taught not to be selfish, to think first of others, and it is something nice and important on certain occasions, but not always. To be clear in our minds, to prioritize ourselves is quite complicated, that is why most of us spend much of the time going over ourselves and putting first and prioritizing others, while we are ignoring our emotions, our feelings, our thoughts, what we like, what we want, what we desire, our dreams, even our basic priorities.

I want to share with you a few simple steps so that you can start from this very moment to prioritize yourself.

Step number one: Be kind to yourself.

Recognize your goodness, practice self-compassion, especially in those moments where you consider that you have made a mistake, I invite you to observe how you talk to yourself continuously and be very careful because it is very easy to get lost in this internal criticism.

Step number 2: Dedicate time to yourself.

You decide if you want to do it daily, weekly, biweekly or monthly, the most important thing is that you have it fixed, that you have it destined to dedicate that time sacredly to you. Just take some time for yourself, you will see that it is something enriching, remember that doing what you love recharges you.

Number 3: Adopt phrases that enrich you.

That make you vibrate from love, for example, I deserve joy, I am valuable, I can not with everything, this last phrase super important, you must keep in mind that you can not do everything for your family, this applies especially for moms that we want to carry everything for our children. We must let them and teach them to learn to be self-sufficient.

Last step: No one else will prioritize you.

You must be your best ally, stand up for yourself, run for your dreams, dedicate time to do things that bring you joy, that fulfill you. If you are your priority, I guarantee that you will reduce stress, because let me tell you that if your priority is others you must be loaded with stress. So if you start to prioritize yourself you will reduce that stress, and remember that stress is a poison, stress does too much damage and not only to us, but to the people around us, that is, to our loved ones. 

If you don't change now you will always have less energy, you will complain more, you will feel more resentment, you will be critical of yourself and others, you will simply be affecting everyone you seek to benefit, by ignoring your own wants and needs. Focus on prioritizing your satisfaction and your dreams, then you will live a fulfilling and satisfying life.