Emotional intelligence is a powerful skill, it is about knowing how to use, understand and manage our emotions in such a way that they impact our lives in an extremely positive way.

Benefits of emotional intelligence.

Actually I will list a few, but benefits, quantity, I think infinite, minimizes stress, is perfect for good communication, in times of difficulty is an excellent tool, in addition to avoiding conflicts and tragedies.

Whenever we hear such horrible and horrifying news where people get carried away by anger, rage and commit a homicide, it is because they simply do not know how to handle emotions and for some reason, circumstances, reason that creates this conflict, they get carried away by that anger that is so powerful, it is a very strong emotion, they come out committing a tragedy that they will surely regret when they are calm and realize what they have done. So this tool can save our own lives or the lives of others.

How to work this skill in our life daily?    

The first step is to identify the emotion behind your actions, that is, if you are a person who normally reacts with aggression, rage, temper, anger. You must stop and analyze what is the emotion that is controlling this act that you normally do in your life, behind each and every one of our actions there is an emotion, this emotion is the one that manages or directs this act. So it is very important that we are aware of what emotions are directing and controlling our daily actions.

The second step is to name the emotion that is directing this act, we must be clear that all our emotions without labeling as positive or negative, because they are not positive and negative are simply emotions, they have a name, that is, if I feel low grade, I must sit down to analyze and put a name to how I'm feeling, I feel sad, I feel disappointed, I feel helpless. 

We have to talk about it, especially with the people around us, our family members, our loved ones, without shame, without taboos and say, I need some time alone because I feel very angry. 

The third step is super important: be an empathetic person. 

If you are an empathic person, consciously or unconsciously, you will be managing your emotions very well, you will be a person who has developed this ability of emotional intelligence.

All of us can believe or consider that we control our emotions and that we manage emotional intelligence in easy moments, in good moments, in moments where everything is rosy, but in moments of rage, frustration, bad temper, anger, difficulty, is when we really check if we are people who use our ability or not.

So in those moments we must be empathetic, put ourselves in the other person's shoes, in the shoes of that person who is hurting me, who is driving me out of my mind, in this person who is causing me to feel this way, with this anger, with this jealousy, and not let my emotions get out of control.

For example, when a person comes and gives me an ugly answer, looks at me ugly or gives me a bad service, this bad service is not personal, it is not because of me, it is because this person is going through a difficult time, so it is important to be empathetic and respond with love, respect, understanding, tolerance and simply thank you and see you later. 

The fourth step is to stop for a moment. 

That is, whenever we are going through meters of difficulty and our ability of emotional intelligence is tested, we must stop, breathe and understand that not every day is the same, there are better days and others not so much, besides life is putting us daily tests, which we better pass if we are not going to regret again and again until we learn or we may never learn.

The fifth step is meditation and at this point I think there is not much to talk about, we all already know, most of the benefits that this wonderful tool has, it is useful for everything. In general, much more at the moment in which we have to calm down, to be empathic and to be attentive to our emotions.

Step number 6, coaching sessions.

The coach is an expert in personal growth, when we want to work on our emotions and have awakened ability and have it there at all times as a tool that we can use at any time, what better than a coach to accompany us in this beautiful discovery of our emotions and help you develop your emotional skills. 

7 and last step, read books about it, take courses, simply soak yourself in this wonderful subject of emotional intelligence, so you will acquire knowledge, tools, wisdom, experience and you will simply know how to act, how to do it, believe me that if you work daily on this, I guarantee that you will have performance in your work life, personal life and in general you will experience well-being, happiness and personal development.